The wonder of the “NOT Working Woman.” A new friend recently emailed me, saying, “I don’t work. We can meet whenever you like.” That is a rare statement these days.

It is such a relief to meet someone who does NOT work… I know that sounds weird.  Lately, however, I have been thinking about the harm done to women by the “work culture” and the idea that they MUST have a career.

It has been hard on families, hardest of all on the women themselves. And it has fostered some very wrong ideas about what is important.  So many people send their children, even babies, off to “daycare,” sometimes for the entire day. 

Don’t they realize that they are letting someone else raise their kids?  And what are they doing with all the extra money, having more “stuff”. More clothes for work and a second car, of course. Money spent on daycare, Internet, eating out, dry cleaning, laundry, gas for the vehicles, and maintenance. All the while, what they are giving up is “priceless” and cannot be done “later.”  It is too late “later.”

It is all so backward. No one cooks. The food they buy is manipulated and half-poisonous. They don’t get out in the sunlight, don’t raise any of their own food, and drink “sports drinks” or other stuff full of chemicals. Even their water is fluoridated and really unhealthy. They think this is “time-saving.” It is also making them sick, unhealthy, fat, and depressed. Seriously, it is frightening how few people bother to make any food from scratch. And they continue to use microwaves even though the evidence of harm from these is overwhelming.

Ranting about this seems old-fashioned and fruitless because the whole culture accepts this way of life as normal. But it is NOT normal for the human body. People take drugs for anxiety instead of walking to the places they need to go, instead of gardening, or taking care of animals like chickens or cattle. We need to be close to nature. We do NOT need to sit at a desk for hours at a time. It is killing us slowly, and we just accept it.


Get up! Get outside! Get Married!
Get Pregnant! (after you get married)

Go back to the ways that have worked forever. For all the thousands of years that people have been upright on two legs, walking the planet, they have paired off into couples to have and raise children.

 Don’t wait for everything to be ideal. That is a myth. It is never ideal. There are always loose ends, jobs that have not panned out, family issues, debts, and sickness. That is why the marriage vows say what they say about “for richer for poorer and in sickness and in health.” Love is the most important thing. If you find it, STOP. Don’t keep looking elsewhere.

Couple up, marry, procreate. Live your life with your family. Enjoy. Relax. Manage expectations. Be an example to others.

This is how the human race has grown in number and “humanity” over the millennia. Trying to find the best job has nothing to do with it. Women finding their purpose (outside of marriage and children) is a trap and a delusion. Marriage and children are their purpose. Period.


Women have been brainwashed into denying this fact. This is the problem. Who would want to do this? What forces focus on making women discontented with being women? It is a good question.



Women are the most essential part of the future. They are the mothers. They give birth to the future. They raise and nurture those coming after them. At least, that is how it is meant to be.

Please take another look at this propaganda about women finding their purpose in a career first and marrying afterward. This idea is crazy. 

Do it now.

Marry NOW. Have babies when you are young and strong. Do this when your body is at its peak for childbearing. Do not listen to those who say, “You can have it all.” Certainly, don’t listen if they say build a career and then have babies in your 40s. This is ridiculous and wrong.

Again, I say: Do it now. Do Not Wait.

And if you can do it on one salary and stay home with the kids, go for it. You will never regret staying home with your children.

You won’t regret it. You will give your children a gift of great worth. I admit that there were days when I thought to myself, “Self, I should have raised kittens!” Even then, it was the right thing to do. You can never recover that time. It is either used to nurture your family, or it is wasted on material things.

Human beings are meant to find partners and multiply. It is in our DNA, and fulfilling that need makes us whole. There are exceptions to this rule. Ok. So what? Just because a few people are more comfortable staying solo does not mean everyone else should feel guilty for wishing to couple up, marry, and have babies.

Be careful; do not let a tiny group of people who are shouting the loudest swing the whole group of sheep around to their way of thinking.


That is what happened during covid. Now, we can all see it as we look back; it is obvious. That whole craziness was caused by a few people in power using propaganda to frighten and control people into complying with their agenda. (Even though they did not follow their own rules) Do not be a sheep once more. (Or ever again). 

Follow your heart and instincts and continue the human race, one family at a time.

Copyright©. 2025 Bonnie B. Matheson