What if there were no men?
What if there was a world suddenly without men?
If you write “What if there were no men?” in the search bar on Google, the first page has ten references to different articles on this subject. There have been so many articles written lately about what the world would be like if there were no men. It seems so misogynistic.
Men are being disparaged endlessly by today’s feminists. It is a sad commentary since they are the reason we have the world we have now.
Men basically created the arts, music, dance, song, painting, and sculpture. There were some women involved, but the larger portion was that of males. Nearly all the inventions and labor-saving devices were designed by males. Men also created government, law, and medicine. That last one needs help because women MDs are as bad as men when it comes to their faults. Have any women clamored to build new countries or create new governmental systems? No, because this is a masculine trait. Certainly, women make good rulers when they succeed to the throne. Cleopatra, many British queens, and Catherine the Great spring to mind immediately. Perhaps we should elect a female president in the USA now, but first, we must find a woman who has what it takes. For decades, women have been granted equal rights with men in nearly every way. Yet few have emerged who can inspire admiration as leaders.
I am grateful for men and grateful to BE a woman. The world needs both. We need each other. We are designed to go together, male and female. Somehow, that belief, that certain knowledge, has been corrupted. We must all be vigilant until this wicked trend passes. It will pass because it is so unnatural.
What if there were no men?
For someone like me who was raised in a time when traditional marriage was expected and hoped for, today’s attitude is strange. We see women who think they are prolonging their “freedom,” working late hours at jobs they often dislike to create a career they may not want. While they are using up this time, getting “wasted,” and having sex with strangers, their biological clocks are ticking. They give up the time when their bodies were designed to have babies, and they wait two more decades. Then, when they do finally marry or even decide to have a baby alone, they are called “geriatric” moms. Their bodies are no longer at peak childbearing age. Getting pregnant can be more difficult, and keeping the baby to term may also be harder.
Do not wait. Young women have more stamina. If they only understood that it is a LOT of work when the baby is learning to walk and for the next couple of years. It requires large reserves of strength and calm to navigate those early years. They must be able to continue despite a lack of sleep and sometimes a colicky baby. In our twenties, we can handle this with less trouble. Instead of staying up all night partying at some club, you could be handling the early mothering phase with ease. When that part is over, you can continue with your life sleeping through the night. You and your husband can still have fun; you can travel or work or whatever because those babies grow up fast. Suddenly, the children are gone, and if you are still young, you can have a marvelous time with your mate.
Recently, I have become aware of the trend toward trashing “trad wives.” What is a ‘trad’ wife? Well, it is what I wanted to be my entire life growing up. Traditional. It means a traditional, stay-at-home wife and mother. It means a woman who marries and loves her husband (a man). It means a woman who stays home, makes homemade meals, and keeps house. It means a woman who has babies, maybe even several babies. She likes it, if she is lucky. Some women revel in pregnancy. Some women adore making their husband’s lives easier with hot meals served on time. A neat house and tidy children reassure him that all is well. Without men, there would be no traditional wives.
Traditional wife means a woman who sees herself as feminine and her husband as masculine. And she understands that this works well in a marriage. It is the Yin and Yang of life. However, this is no longer “trad.” Today, ‘trad’ wives are laughed at, denigrated, and mocked. The new tradition is to wait long into one’s thirties or even forties to marry and settle down. During that time, they’ve had multiple relationships. They have become hardened to romantic loss, sexual experimentation, career problems, and living alone or with roommates. By the time they marry, they are fed up.
The first year of marriage was called the honeymoon period. It used to be called a honeymoon because when a man and woman married and were finally allowed to be intimate, it was like magic. They replaced the sexual tension and the longing with the feeling of satisfaction and the romance of being able to be together at all times. The petty annoyances of living together with another person were mitigated by the constant touching and bedtime cuddles reaching completion and leading to sound sleep. The first year of marriage can be full of learning to deal with each other’s preferences and rough spots. Men and women are different. They think differently. The things that are important to one may be unimportant to the other. But when you are in love and full of romance, these things are mere trifles.
My advice is to date only people whom you would be comfortable marrying. Do not go out with a creep or someone who scares you. It makes good sense to date people who are employed, have good values, and are safe, sane, and not dangerous. This will make it much easier to find someone early whom you love more than any other. Do not look for a “better catch” or wait to see what you might run into later. If you are both in love with each other, plan to marry soon. Long engagements are wretched. Get married and make it work. Did you get that? A successful marriage does not happen by accident. It takes managing and sometimes a great deal of sacrifice and compromise. But it thrives on love, caring, and thoughtfulness. Start a family within the first three years of marriage or even right away.
Life starts once men and women marry and begin a family. Ask anyone who has children when they felt they really got it all together. It is not the “job.” It is not even the “marriage.” True fulfillment happens when you have a child together. That is when you suddenly realize what life is all about, who you are, and why you are here.
Copyright©. 2024 Bonnie B. Matheson
