Today I was browsing sites that deal with women their problems and desires as they age. One of my favorites is Libido fo Life. There I found a post by Joan Price who wrote Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex after Sixty and the upcoming Naked at Our Age.
She had answered a question about using a vibrator rather than having an orgasm without electrical enhancement. That struck a chord with me, because when writing my book Ahead of the Curve, I spoke with women all over the United States. Some of them voiced this same “old wives tale”. My answer then and now is the same. We use all sorts of things to improve our pleasure daily. We use spices to improve our food. The more exotic they are the better. We dress ourselves in ways to improve our natural looks. We use make up that can literally change a terrible face into a pretty one. Why is it not wrong to do these things, and yet women feel guilty about needing or wanting to use a vibrator?
Since men learned about Viagra they have spent billions of dollars to improve their performance. Why would any of them begrudge us added pleasure? It is almost funny when you consider the double standard this implies. I thought we had brought all of that out in the open and made real progress at levelling the playing field.
So if you are a woman, enjoy your electronic sex toy. Do NOT let a partner make you feel inadequate for using it. You can make a game of it and use it together. Enjoy our modern technology and stop feeling guilty.